Our day by the pool, sipping tea and coffee, talking, laughing, and sharing sweet kisses, was nothing short of perfect. These moments with you are incredibly special to me, and they remind me of how lucky I am to have you in my life. Thank you for being the amazing person.
"Never love a wild thing … you can’t give your heart to a wild thing; the more you do, the stronger they get. Until they’re strong enough to run into the woods. Or fly into a tree. Then a taller tree. Then the sky. that's how you'll end up if you let yourself love a wild thing. you will end up looking at the sky"
That's my favorite book quotes that stuck in my head for a long time from Truman Capote book, Breakfast at tiffany's. We, human always love people with wild or broken personality, we try so hard to fix them. It is not inherently wrong to love "wild" things or broken people and want to help or support them. Love and compassion are powerful forces that can inspire positive change and growth. But it's also important to recognize that not everything in life can be fixed or repaired, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. While it's natural to feel empathy and compassion for someone or something that is broken, it's crucial to understand that you cannot solely bear the responsibility for fixing everything.
When it comes to matters of love, it's important to remember that individuals are complex and have their own journeys to navigate. It's not healthy or fair to enter a relationship with the sole purpose of fixing someone or expecting them to fix you. Relationships should be based on mutual support, growth, and love.
It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health. Loving someone who is broken can be emotionally draining and can hinder your own personal growth. It's essential to establish healthy boundaries and recognize when it's necessary to step back and take care of yourself.
It's important also to accept that not everything can be fixed or changed. Understand that some things are beyond your control, and it's essential to manage your own expectations accordingly. Acceptance doesn't mean giving up on someone, but rather recognizing that everyone has their own journey and pace of healing.
Sometimes, the most compassionate thing you can do is to provide support, understanding, and encouragement while also encouraging the person to seek professional help or resources to address their own healing process. Remember that you cannot control or fix another person's journey, and it's essential to respect their autonomy and allow them the space to heal at their own pace.
Ultimately, it's important to surround yourself with healthy and positive relationships that contribute to your own happiness and well-being. You deserve love and support just as much as anyone else, and it's important to choose relationships that are built on a foundation of mutual respect, understanding, and growth.
Love,
Naaj
2023 has been a quite trip so far! walaupun belum ada setengahnya dijalani tapi sudah cukup membuat emosi naik turun. Tulisan ini saya buat di pagi hari sambil menikmati secangkir latte dengan almond milk dan rokok di tangan. Pagi ini sempat melintas di pikiran, "apa sih hal-hal yang bikin saya menikmati waktu dan hidup?" I realize there are many things that can bring joy and happiness into
my life ditengah gempuran hal-hal yang kadang suka bikin down mental. Tapi ada 5 hal yang berada di top of the lists yang betul-betul membuat saya bahagia dan menikmati hidup ketika sedang menjalaninya walaupun keadaan mental saya lagi downn, dan dengan melakukan hal tersebut saya jadi bahagia.
1. Exercise
Exercise releases endorphins, which can bring a sense of joy and euphoria. Whether it's
running, swimming, cycling, or lifting weights, find a physical activity that
you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine. Kalau saya sendiri jalan pagi dan jalan sore, kadang sendiri atau berdua sama kawan. tapi kebanyakan sih sendirian, ini jadi me time saya yang saya sukai, karena selain jalan itu sehat juga saya jadi lebih fokus memperhatikan keadaan sekitar, menikmati hembuwan angin dan lagu yang mengalun di headphone.
2. Scrapbooking
mungkin banyak yang tau kalau saya suka upload video atau foto hasil scrapbooking saya di semua social media saya, sungguh ini hal yang bikin saya bahagia banget karena saya menemukan hobi yang bikin saya jadi relax banget. Saya ini orang yang tingkat fokusnya lemah banget, dengan scrapbooking saya jadi lebih fokus dalam melakukan suatu hal. biasanya saya scrapbookan sambil mendengarkan lagu. saya juga baca-baca kalau scrapbook punya efek yang bagus untuk kesehatan mental, salah satunya adalah dengan kita jadi fokus dan ini bisa menurunkan kadar stress juga anxiety. ga heran saya demen banget scrapbookan.
3. Books!
Koleksi buku saya lumayan banyak karena saya benar-benar menikmati moment ketika baca buku. Saya pribadi memilih buku fisik ketimbang buku online, karena saya senang banget harum kertas di setiap lipatannya. Buku yang sering saya baca biasanya buku pengembangan diri atau biografi kadang fiksi juga suka. Dari buku saya belajar banyak hal dan dapat informasi yang saya ga tau sebelumnya.
4. Ngopi sendirian
kadang kita butuh waktu untuk sendiri, dan ini sering saya lakukan; ngopi sendirian. Ada moment dimana saya cuma mau ngopi sendirian tanpa ditemenin kawan dan ngobrol hahahihi, saya bisa sambil melakukan aktifitas lainnya seperti menulis blog sambil ngopi. Heran juga saya jauh lebih produktif kalo sendirian 😁 mungkin karena kalo sendirian bisa fokus kali ya.
5. Spending
time with loved ones
Spending time loved ones is always a great
way to bring joy into my life. Entah sama anak-anak atau sama partner saya. Whether it's having a meal together, going for a walk, or just chatting on the phone, the company of those I love can brighten my day. Kadang bahkan ga ngobrol cuma diem-dieman aja tapi udah bikin saya bahagia, asal ada mereka di samping saya.
Begitu 5 hal simpel yang bikin saya bahagia setiap melakukannya and I hope this post is helpful and I would love to hear some of the things that are bringing you joy too.
Regards,
Naaj
Saya tuh belajar banyak selama 3 tahun ke belakang ini dan banyak kehilangan orang-orang terdekat saya. Yang paling memukul adalah kehilangan ibu dan kakak saya juga kucing peliharaan saya karena waktu mereka di dunia sudah habis dan sudah waktunya kembali menuju Tuhan dengan damai.
Kehilangan kawan-kawan dekat pun juga saya alami. Dan akhirnya saya sibuk mencari kambing hitam untuk disalahkan selama 3 tahun terakhir. karena menurut saya sepertinya kehilangan yang saya alami memang dari faktor luar. Lama-lama lelah juga karena setiap kali saya mencari, saat itu pula saya makin jauh dari jawaban yang saya cari.
Saya ingat beberapa waktu lalu saya sedang duduk di balkon apartemen lantai 11 sambil menyesap kopi di pagi hari, memperhatikan jalanan dan jari jemari saya memegang erat rokok yang sesekali saya hisap juga hembuskan. Saat itu suara dari dalam diri saya bilang
"eh, kadang segala sesuatu yang terjadi ga perlu dicari penyebabnya, diterima saja dan jalani. Manusia memang datang dan pergi, kamu kan tau itu sejak dulu. Semua orang mengalami kok."
sambil memperhatikan jalanan kota Jakarta yang sibuk, saya kemudian berpikir, betul juga, mereka yang ada di dalam kendaraan melaju cepat itupun juga pasti pernah meraskan kehilangan. Dan juga mungkin sebagian dari mereka sudah belajar bahwa segala kehilangan yang terjadi kadang ga perlu dicari jawabannya atau penyebabnya, karena hanya akan menghabiskan energi dan tenaga. Cukup diterima dan jalani. Ketika itu saya sadar terlalu fokus untuk mencari sebab dan menyalahkan orang lain atas kehilangan yang saya alami, akhirnya? stress dan depresi, engga fokus dengan masa kini, malah fokusnya ke masa lalu.
tentang kehilangan, saya pikir sangat wajar untuk kita, manusia mengalami kehilangan. Karena manusia datang silih berganti, ibarat kata semua manusia adalah pengembara termasuk kita sendiri.
People come and go in our lives, leaving their mark in one
way or another. Some are here to stay, while others are only passing through.
It's a natural part of life, and it can be both beautiful and heartbreaking at
the same time.
When someone comes into our life, they bring with them a
unique set of experiences, perspectives, and qualities that enrich our own
lives. We learn from them, laugh with them, and grow with them. But inevitably,
some of these people will leave our lives, either by choice or circumstance.
When someone leaves, it can feel like a piece of us is
missing. We may feel sadness, confusion, and even anger. But it's important to
remember that every person who comes into our life is there for a reason. They
may have fulfilled their purpose, taught us a lesson, or simply helped us
through a difficult time.
It's also important to recognize that just because someone
leaves, it doesn't mean they are gone forever. We may cross paths again in the
future, or we may continue to hold them in our hearts as cherished memories.
Ultimately, the ebb and flow of people in our lives is a
reminder to cherish every moment we have with those we love. We should never
take anyone for granted, because we never know how long they will be with us.
So, to all the people who have come and gone in my lives, I thank you. Thank you for the joy, the laughter, the tears, and the memories.
You have left your mark on me, and I am forever grateful.
Regards,
Naaj
I love to see when someone romanticize their life. Romanticizing your life is a way to infuse your everyday experiences with a sense of wonder and beauty. It's about seeing the world through a lens of appreciation and finding joy in the simple things.
I think romanticizing your life can’t be considered a bad thing or an unhealthy thing if you are keeping your feet on your ground. By adding a touch of romance to your life, you can elevate your mood, improve your relationships & cultivate a deeper appreciation for all that life has to offer
for me, romanticizing your life is about finding beauty in the everyday moments. It's about taking time to appreciate the way the sunlight filters through the trees, the sound of birds singing in the morning, or the taste of a perfectly brewed cup of coffee or other simple things.
I also learn something that when I started to romanticize my life then I become more focusing on the good things in my life, I can cultivate a sense of appreciation and contentment. Take time each day to reflect on the things I am grateful for, whether it's the people in my life, the beauty of nature or the simple pleasures that bring me a joy.
by embracing your inner romantic inner, you can infuse your life with a sense of wonder and magic. So please take some time today to slow down and appreciate the beauty around you, and savor the simple pleasure of life.
Regards,
Naajmi
I saw you in my dreams before, you were there sitting at edge of curved window, admiring the moon. I can see your soul through your teary eyes under the moonlight.
There was a deep hollow in your heart you tried to continuously fill it with something that makes you feel better, but unfortunately it’s not enough to make you feel better.
I know your journey has been a tough and painful one. You give life, hope, insight to others, you give smile and wisdom to everyone. But most times when they get what they need, they leave. Very few stop to say thank you to you. And sometimes you feel neglected and abandoned. But still you manage it well to smile and pretend you’re okay.
my selenophile,
In moments like this
I want to sit beside you
place your hand in mine
and tell you all that I have learned about you;
I know why you love the moon, for the moon knows all your secrets, for it knows your dreams, for it knows your pain, for it knows what you hide from others, for it knows you cried every night, for it knows all your memories, for it will never leave you alone like others did.
“The more peace we bring into our lives, the more peace we bring into this world.”
― Todd Perelmuter
Living a peaceful life is something that many of us aspire to achieve. However, it can be challenging to know where to start or what changes to make to create a peaceful life. In this blog, I want to share my experience of living a peaceful life and the changes I made to achieve it.
Firstly, I realized that peace is an inside job. It's not something that we can find outside of ourselves, but rather it's something that we cultivate within. I started by prioritizing self-care and making time for activities that bring me joy and relaxation. I made a conscious effort to take care of my physical health by eating well, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep.
going back to Bandung also one of my fav thing to make myself more peaceful |
Secondly, I started practicing mindfulness regularly. I found that mindfulness helped me to stay present in the moment and reduced my stress levels. I started with simple practices like taking a few deep breaths throughout the day and gradually moved onto more formal practices like meditation and yoga. Mindfulness helped me to focus on the present moment and let go of worries about the past or the future.
Next, I simplified my life by decluttering my home, simplifying my schedule, and letting go of commitments that no longer served me. Simplifying my life helped me to reduce my stress levels and create a more peaceful environment. I found that having fewer possessions and commitments helped me to focus on what was truly important and let go of distractions.
I also made an effort to foster positive relationships in my life. I surrounded myself with people who brought out the best in me and supported my goals and values. I let go of relationships that were negative or draining and focused on building connections with people who added value to my life.
Finally, I found purpose and meaning in my life by pursuing hobbies (scrapbook) and interests that brought me joy, volunteering in my community, and finding work that aligned with my values. Having a sense of purpose and meaning in my life helped me to create a sense of peace and fulfillment. I also take a break from social media often.
In conclusion, living a peaceful life is about cultivating a sense of peace within ourselves. By prioritizing self-care, practicing mindfulness, simplifying our lives, fostering positive relationships, and finding purpose and meaning in our lives, we can create a more peaceful and fulfilling life. It's important to remember that creating a peaceful life is a journey, and it takes time and effort to achieve. However, the benefits of a peaceful life are well worth it, and I encourage everyone to start the journey towards a more peaceful life.
Regards,
Naajmi